Actresses are getting tired of doing "the orgasm face. There should be a male orgasm face. Why is it always the woman who's orgasming? From the perfectly arched back to the mouth that stays delicately pretty even when it's moaning, TV's classic O-face would have you believe every woman looks, sounds and acts exactly the same during sex. But that's not the case.
While representations of female sexuality are always welcome, it's disturbing that portrayals of women's orgasms are often so shockingly similar. And that's a problem: This narrow definition of what a female climax looks like has the power to distort real women's perceptions of their own orgasms, causing a serious blow to their confidence and influencing their own experiences of sex.
Rose Leslie in "Game of Thrones. Ygritte's face during her hookup with Jon Snow in Game of Thrones takes on a state of euphoria that never appears tense.
Moaning or screaming is often part of the equation. In one scene from Sex and the City , Samantha literally screams, then sings, her way to orgasm. Over-the-top yelling during sex is even used to comedic effect, as in Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Perhaps most jarring is just how quickly and how often women reach orgasm on screen. Lorena and Bill transition from fighting, to having sex, to orgasming in a matter of seconds on True Blood.
And orgasms happen not only quickly, but consistently. When was the last time you watched a sex scene in which the woman didn't come? Rachel McAdams in "The Notebook.
First, the physical sensation of orgasm must be translated into a visual form in order for viewers to understand that the woman is feeling pleasure, said Lynne Joyrich, professor of modern culture and media at Brown University.
And these representations become hardwired into filmmaking technique. It's a cycle," Joyrich said. Most women need clitoral stimulation not necessarily achieved through penetration alone to experience a climax, Erica Marchand, a psychologist and sex therapist from Los Angeles, told Mic. And those two-minute quickies so often portrayed on TV?
We have to be more slowly aroused," she explained, "whereas men tend to be like microwaves: They can be turned on fast and the goal is orgasm. As for that "orgasm face," as Wilson put it, it's wholly indefinable.
Some women may yell and curse; others are quiet. Grimacing and frowning, or wearing a look of intense concentration, is also possible, Marchand said. Science may prove again and again that women take longer and require all sorts of stimulation to come; but when only one narrow representation of orgasm is portrayed, women can worry that their own experiences aren't normal.
Cam, a year-old from Ontario, said she feels the pressure to have the same mind-blowing orgasms she's seen in the media. Why can't we do it so quickly? Lindholm said that trying to make yourself have an "Academy Award-winning" orgasm can actually prevent you from climaxing at all.
Halle Berry in "Monster's Ball. Increasingly, movies and shows are choosing to depict a range of female sexual expressions. Girls demonstrates that women are perfectly capable of reaching an orgasm without a man , while Masters of Sex acknowledges that women can have sex without experiencing an orgasm at all. As for the face? We're still waiting for accurate female depictions, not to mention more male faces to balance things out.
In the meantime, next time you're confronted with yet another seductively perfect "orgasm face," feel free to change the channel or cut yourself some slack. It's not you, it's them.