Last updated Then why is it so prevalent in porn? This article features frank discussions of sexuality and is NSFW. I am a sex writer who has never had sex. Has a digit slipped in during an inopportune moment, as a result of my getting distracted by a loud noise or shiny object during foreplay? Yes, once, during high school, but my recollection of said event is hazy.
All I remember is darkness, lube, and an odor that I later identified as akin to the penguin exhibit at the Central Park Zoo. The main reason is because my not having had butt sex is sort of like someone never having tried oysters, or not having seen E. But at the same time, not having seen E. Now, it seems that anal sex is on the rise among teenagers , according to a recent study from the journal BMJ Open: Anal sex is on the rise among people between the ages of 16 and 24, with 19 percent of men and 17 percent of women reporting having tried it.
There were marked gender differences in how anal sex was described… Its benefits pleasure, indicator of sexual achievement were expected for men, but not women. Its risks—interviewees rarely mentioned risks of sexually transmitted infections, focusing instead on risk of pain or damaged reputation—were expected for women but not for men. Is it because of societal pressure? Is it because of porn, as author Naomi Wolf posits, after learning from college health counselors that straight women are increasingly complaining of experiencing anal fissures from sex?
Or is it because of something else entirely? They are just fantastic. But it does raise the question: My colleague Miles Klee has two theories, one of which has far more ominous implications than the other: His second, more innocent explanation: Are porn producers struggling to cater to what they think is increased demand for anal in porn? This is why women who have one kind of perfectly good orgasm , be they clitoral or G-spot or anal, obsess over having the other kind, and this is why men who have access to one perfectly good orifice obsess over having access to another.
My friend Scott puts it best: But the idea that there is a Holy Grail of sex in the form of a butthole, or any other organ, for that matter, is not only silly—as the BMJ study concludes, it actually can be kinda dangerous.
To those men and women who have found their Holy Grail in the form of anal sex: And more than anything, I wish the men and women who feel coerced into having any kind of sex other than the one they find most pleasurable felt the same way.