Print Article AA There are rules to every game, and learning about kink starts with identifying some basic BDSM definitions -- and reading this week's cover story, " Kink of the Jungle ," of course. Below is an abbreviated selection of terms that may be unknown to non-kinksters, or as they are known, vanillas. Read them with caution, because if a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, then a little more might inspire a permanent vacation to the dark side.
Lube is your friend. Slang term for an orgy involving people into BDSM. Not to be confused with a blanket party -- that is the bad kind of bad. A form of body modification, also referred to as micro-branding, which involves using a red-hot needle or poker to make a series of dots on the skin. Of course it hurts, but so does love. A type of whip with a broad, triangular piece of suede or leather that tapers down to a point. A type of psychological BDSM play involving humiliation, fear, shame or other elements that cause the recipient to have an emotional response.
It's like watching Fox News, only more fun. Inserting a piece of ginger or a hot chili pepper into the anus to produce a burning sensation.
Make sure you can remove it. That trip to the E. The act of urinating on someone. It's the bio-filtered drink of champions. A non-negotiable boundary that is discussed and agreed upon as part of safe BDSM play. The principle of consent being given with full knowledge of events, circumstances and participants -- and the ability to give consent, i.
This is why screwing dogs is a bad idea -- also because screwing a dog is gross. The vanilla idiot who shows up uninvited at a kink play party and tries to screw everything that moves until he is either asked to vacate or is removed from the premises. Seriously, nobody likes this guy. Jeweled daggers work well here. A fetish for human female breast milk, sometimes involving the actual expression of milk.
Mothers need love, too. The act of manipulating someone's perception of reality. The Tea Party does this every day. The act of discussing rules and expectations within a scene, or in a BDSM relationship. Scenes can go sour without communication, so talk.
The act of dehumanizing a person for pleasure. Human footstools could be the new cool furniture. A person who engages in erotic or sexual play with persons of any gender or sexual orientation. Yep -- it's time you all learned that it goes beyond bisexual these days.
Also known as "face-sitting," this act involves a person who consensually "forces" another person into mouth-to-genital or mouth-to-anal contact. Going ass-to-mouth is optional. The act of vomiting on another person. Maybe it's hot to get someone's tummy goo on your face. A boundary that is more flexible, one which can be "pushed" to a comfortable degree.
Internet sites are loaded with these people. Use caution, because they won't. No, not that kind. A single, bisexual female, often a submissive, who enjoys playing with couples. They are called this because they are hard to find, and even harder to capture, like a mythical creature. Good luck finding one of these. These are leather gloves with small metal spikes embedded in the palm areas, used to produce a stinging effect on skin. These are perfect for beginners to experiment with. A sometimes derisive nickname for dominant men who "rescue" female submissives from other unsuitable dominants, situations, or from themselves.
These guys are called Captain-Save-a-Ho in the vanilla world. If you like this story, consider signing up for our email newsletters.