Attraction and seduction are an important part of arousal. If we want to take our evening to the next level, the mood has to be there. And sometimes, that involves working a bit harder to light that fire. Put some good healthy creative thought into determining your style and what brings out the best you. Obviously the healthier you eat and the more you workout plays directly into this as well.
Taking care of yourself from the inside-out reaps levels of rewards, it will impact how you smell and taste too. Remember, some things have not changed in the sex double standard. My point is women are going to be a hell of a lot pickier. You need to be doing everything possible with your life to step your game up and beyond the average Joe.
Average Joe isn't getting any action. Women do not settle for mediocre. Others want to feel challenged. Some need to feel sexy or desire. Others want to feel a little frightened. Tease Her Blindfold her and tease around her entire body while avoiding her hot spots. Stimulate Her Mind Men highly underestimate the power of a woman's mind over her body. The brain is the largest sex organ there is so stimulate her mind first before moving to the erogenous zones of her body.
Making her feel safe and comfortable is the first step to arousing the mind and then securing her trust. Allow her to vent her frustrations, be empathetic and then move into giving her a back rub. When her mind is relaxed and free of stress her body will follow. Have a conversation with her before entering into any sexual activity to give her the opportunity to tell you what does it for her. Not only does this place her pleasure first, but it also makes her feel comfortable in knowing that you care about her satisfaction as much as you care about yours.
And that is the ultimate turn on. Caress Her Other Erogenous Zones The sexual parts of a woman's body are obvious breasts, butt, vulva, lips but there are other erogenous zones that are non-assuming yet effective in stimulating arousal when they are stimulated. Take the time to explore a woman's body before sex by offering a sensual rubdown beginning at the feet and then working your way up to the backs of the thighs and eventually the abdomen.
Avoid the most obvious zones to create a level of anticipation for what is to come next. Create ambiance with candles and soft music and make sure the room is warm. You don't have to be a professional masseuse to do this.
Use light strokes first and increase the pressure as you go along, but always check in with your partner to make sure she is comfortable. Take Things Slow Don't force issues, feelings or sex ever. Don't ever plan on having sex. If it happens on the first night, it's totally fine but it is usually better to wait until you're both sure about the situation.
Your goals should be to earn her trust and respect instead of thinking what's the next move to get into her bed. Desperation and neediness are major turn-offs.