How to Overcome the Sexual Desires and Masturbation How can a Muslim overcome sexual desires and give up masturbation? Sexual desire is actually a feeling that Allah swt bestowed humanbeings for the continuation of generation.
It is a natural matter fitrah but more than that, a gift, because if there was no pleasure in sexual desire, people would not face up to the heavy responsibilities and troubles of giving birth, raising children etc. Since the generation of mankind should go on, man is given sexual desire as a worldly reward for carrying out the troublesome duty of continuation of generation.
Avoid the environment and media that arouse the sexual desires One of the most important precautions to take in order to control the sexual desires is to avoid places, images, views, media and any cause that provoke lust. Surely, adultery does not come out suddenly. Try not to delay marriage Actually, there is a way to relieve sexual desire without falling into immorality. A halal, permissible way. A way, which is also the main purpose of this desire; marriage.
So, the Blessed Prophet pbuh advises young to get married to prevent themselves from immorality: Since companions of a person have a great impact on his social life, Islam places tremendous importance on making friends and advices Muslims to avoid companions who will lead to evil acts ending in regret.
Narrated Abu Hurayrah ra, The Prophet pbuh said: Because, what underlies many wrong actions is actually wrong friends and a wrong social environment encouraging to wrongdoing. Besides, on the Day Judgement, there will be a great sorrow and regret because of having wrong friends: Ah, would that I had chosen a way together with the messenger of Allah! Ah, would that I had never taken such a one for friend!
He verily led me astray from the Reminder after it had reached me. Satan was ever man's deserter in the hour of need. Occupy yourself with beneficial, positive and educatory activities, books etc and avoid any vain thing that will let your mind be busy with sexual desires. Never forget, your mind will occupy in whatever you are busy with. Refrain from wearing tight pants and tight short.
Tight garments that compress sexual organ stimulate the sexual desires, which may induce masturbation. When you go to bed, keep your legs apart as much as possible. It is easier to control the sexual desire unless the sexual organ is compressed. Because, the need to urinate arouses the sexual feelings which may stimulate the desire for masturbation.
Prefer sleeping on right side instead of lying flat on back or face downwards. When you feel the need to masturbate, the best solution to calm down is to wash the sexual organ with cold water. Manage your spare time with useful activities! Those who suffer from masturbation are commonly those who have less work to busy them. So, do keep yourself busy. Engage in sports activities. Every teenager should play at least one sport that is appropriate for him. If you are single and suffer from sexual desires, than do not be fond of chocolate, nuts, hazelnut, banana, spice etc, which increase the sexual appetite.
Keep away from conversations that arouse the desires. If you are single and it is almost impossible for you to control your desires and give up masturbation, do not wait any longer to get married.
Bear in mind that masturbation out of absolute necessity brings you nothing but sin and Divine penalty. It is a virtue to endure with the carnal desires of soul and besides, to overcome them firm you spiritually while masturbation push you into sin and spiritual affliction.
Performing fast has a profound impact on calming down the carnal desires. It is possible to avoid masturbation by performing fast. Thus, you will acquire two kinds of merits; both for fasting and for abstaining from the masturbation sin. Remember that, although you assume yourself to be alone and seem by no one while masturbating, actually you are not alone and always seen by Allah, the All-seeing swt and the angels.