Mastering the Mess-Free Deed 1 Get some towels. You don't want your menstrual fluid combined with everything else to soak into your sheets and mattress, so while you're having sex, place some towels beneath you and some tissues to your side. The towels will be on constant duty; the tissues will be used to wipe yourself off just before sitting up when all is said and done. If odor is a problem, don't let it ruin the moment -- throw on some blankets. If you keep them above your midsections, they'll help block the wafting scents.
Lie on your back to lessen the flow of blood while you're having intercourse. If anything starts to hurt, just tell your partner and proceed with care. Not only is this less messy from the get-go, it's a change of pace, too. When you're under the flow of the water, that other flow becomes a lot less noticeable.
If you can fit two in comfortably, give it a shot if you haven't already! Unless your partner's into uterine lining, they probably shouldn't start feeling around down there. However, if you're the type that needs loads of foreplay, you're in luck!
You already have a natural lubricant, so your partner's fingers and whatever else can have the night off. That doesn't mean you should skip the foreplay entirely. No, no, no, no -- that's a travesty! Just use it as an excuse to experiment with new tricks and moves. This just makes sense. If you know that days are lighter than days 1 and 2, just keep your panties on for those 48 hours.
Let the anticipation build and avoid any awkward trips to the laundromat. If it doesn't bother your partner and they're totally down for day 1 sex, evaluate your concerns. Maybe it's something you could get over -- after all, it's no less sanitary than what you've been doing. It's just a bit redder! There will probably be at least a little something on your skin that needs to be washed off.
If you didn't do the deed in the shower, hop in after for at least a quick rinse. You'll feel better, too. If you're using toys during this time, get those things sanitary immediately. Putting it off will only result in a, how do you say, less-than-glamorous experience.
All in all, get everything hygienic as quickly as possible. Method Staying Clean and Healthy 1 Use contraception. When you're on your period, you're at a higher risk of STDs and pelvic infections . What's more, you're less likely to get pregnant, sure, but it's not impossible.
Here are some of your options: Diaphragms do double-duty as birth control devices and as menstrual cups to inhibit flow.
Sometimes, diaphragms can be felt during sex, and removal can be messy. However, they are generally easy to use because your gynecologist will provide a diaphragm fit exactly to your cervical measurements. They can prevent pregnancy and have the side benefit of absorbing flow, although they don't prevent STDs. You can improve the effectiveness of a female condom by putting some spermicide on the closed end before you insert it into your vagina.
Wear a menstrual cup for sexual play that doesn't involve intercourse. Wear a softcup for penetrative intercourse. Avoid wearing regular menstrual cups during penetration. They are not designed to be used that way and will probably leak. However, if you just want to fool around, menstrual cups prevent leaking and allow for mess-free play including oral sex.
Skip cups made of rubber because the rubbery smell and the taste of rubber in your vaginal fluid may be unpleasant for your partner. Use a silicone cup instead. Instead softcups are specifically designed to be used during intercourse. They are shaped like a diaphragm, are very flexible, and available at most drugstores.
Keep in mind that while you can have intercourse with a soft cup, it doesn't work as a contraceptive. So if you do take the risk of having unprotected sex and your partner ejaculating into you, that's what'll be going on inside you. If your period is over tomorrow, though the risk of getting pregnant is minimal, it's still there. Method Convincing Your Partner 1 Talk it over beforehand. Not everybody enjoys period sex, so it's best not to initiate sex during your period and deliver an awkward surprise to your partner and a potentially frustrating response to you.
Instead, talk it over and find out what your partner thinks about the situation before you get started. He or she probably has an opinion! Some religions and cultures consider the act of having intercourse during your period to be wrong. While no scientific principles support this restriction, you'll have to respect your partner's feelings on the matter.
Sex on your period actually makes a lot of sense, if you look at it from the right angle. A lot of women can actually be more sexually aroused during this time, so the sex can be even better. But what's more, it's good for your period. Having sex on your period actually makes it shorter.
The muscle contractions of the orgasm actually drive out everything faster as opposed to making it magically disappear. Your period may be a bit heavier, but it'll shrink in duration. An orgasm is our bodies' version of a natural painkiller.
It's a rush that wipes away all those aches and floods our feel-good receptors in our brains. If you're out of Midol, take to the sheets!
Your period and your vagina are in no way dirty or gross. Having sex while menstruating isn't weird, uncommon, unhygienic or unsafe. It's all in your head, so quit psyching yourself out! If both of you enjoy it and you inevitably will , why the fuss? You may feel awkward when you first start, but your mind will be taken off the matter in minutes. Sex is generally thought of as penetration, but there are many other forms of sexual play that can bring pleasure to both partners, even if you or your partner do not wish to have vaginal intercourse during your period.
Take this opportunity to discuss and brainstorm new ideas.