People want to get to know the real you. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In swinging, as in the rest of life, our relationships can change with people over time, and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do.
Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly "hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated.
When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one or two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be the same applies: Keep an open mind. Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply.
Not everyone will match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If there's someone that you would like to swing with, let them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be.
If they change their mind, they'll let you know. But it's a very important choice -- this is the 21st Century after all.
Anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Couples Choice provides condoms at no charge and they are prominently displayed in every room in the club. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple courtesy of respecting their comfort level.
Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor. Sharing inside club activities with non-members would terminate your membership.
Do not over indulge in alcohol. It never works out well. The most important person in the club is the person who came with you. Calls the next day rarely solve issues you may have experienced the night before. Leave the drama at the door Good hygiene is a must.